We don’t blame our families for our addiction. They loved us and took good care of us. They might not have been able to spend every minute of their time with us but they did the best they could.
“I always had a very happy childhood with my family. My father ran his own business while mum was a housewife. We never had any problems, I never saw my father arguing with my mother for anything.” (MF, male recovering addict, 26 years old).
We come from a variety of backgrounds. There are those who were given too much, or those who were treated badly and those who didn’t know who their parents were.
“I was looked after by my grandfather and grandmother but they did not love me at all. I got food from friends and my grandmother would do whatever she wanted to me, when she wanted to. She would beat me. When I was hungry and begging for food she would throw the plate of food at my head.” (X, female addict, 22 years old).
There was always someone to look after us; we weren’t abandoned on the streets. We were all given food, shelter and clothing. There is nothing special or different about us but we took advantage of the love and trust given to us. We don’t blame our families for our drug problems, but without the parental skills and understanding and without knowing the reality of the problem, our families supported us while we explored our Junkie attitudes.
“I love my son, I believe in him, I never had any problems with him, and there is no reason why he should blame us for his addiction. Even when I came to know he was using drugs, I never told anybody. I didn’t complain and I always took care of him. I don’t know why he went to drugs, there is no reason for him to go to drugs.” (NB, father of an active addict, 55 years old).
“I always had a very happy childhood with my family. My father ran his own business while mum was a housewife. We never had any problems, I never saw my father arguing with my mother for anything.” (MF, male recovering addict, 26 years old).
We come from a variety of backgrounds. There are those who were given too much, or those who were treated badly and those who didn’t know who their parents were.
“I was looked after by my grandfather and grandmother but they did not love me at all. I got food from friends and my grandmother would do whatever she wanted to me, when she wanted to. She would beat me. When I was hungry and begging for food she would throw the plate of food at my head.” (X, female addict, 22 years old).
There was always someone to look after us; we weren’t abandoned on the streets. We were all given food, shelter and clothing. There is nothing special or different about us but we took advantage of the love and trust given to us. We don’t blame our families for our drug problems, but without the parental skills and understanding and without knowing the reality of the problem, our families supported us while we explored our Junkie attitudes.
“I love my son, I believe in him, I never had any problems with him, and there is no reason why he should blame us for his addiction. Even when I came to know he was using drugs, I never told anybody. I didn’t complain and I always took care of him. I don’t know why he went to drugs, there is no reason for him to go to drugs.” (NB, father of an active addict, 55 years old).
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